Mike and Helen Langridge live in Edinburgh. Mike, 32, is a solicitor and Helen, 30, works for an outdoors robing company
When Helen saw on Mike’s Tinder profile that he was a keen cyclist and wanted to cycle around the world, she communicated him a message.” I said:’ When are we leaving ?’,” she recollects,” and he said:’ How about Tuesday ?'”
When they met up in a pub a few weeks later, in January 2016, they talked about the tour.” It was, initially,’ Wouldn’t it be funny? How would you do it ?’,” says Helen.” It was on the second date that it started to be a bit more:’ Why shouldn’t we do it ?’ We weren’t glad with our jobs, and we had no responsibilities to hold us back .”
After four weeks these people are a pair, and after five months they moved in together, mainly to save money. They sold everything worth selling, and stopped spending. Mike was working long hours as a trainee attorney, but took an evening responsibility in a restaurant. Helen ran in a medical laboratory and rewrote medical documents in the evenings. In November 2016, Mike recommended, and in April 2017, they started on their round-the-world cycle ride. They left on a Tuesday.
” Lots of parties would say to us, specially when we’d been on the road for a while,’ That must be like 10 years of union condensed into 18 months ,'” says Mike.” In a channel it was, because we invested every day together .”
They didn’t cycle side by side the whole way.” We would very rarely lose sight of each other, but it didn’t mean we were always in dialogue every second of the day ,” says Helen.” Rarely I wanted some of my own season, but even then I was like:’ Don’t go too far .'”
They got to know each other, and themselves.” It was a big lesson in endanger, communication and listening ,” says Mike.” Not just what someone was saying, but all the non-verbal things: is Helen tired? Is she stressed? She’s saying we can go on, but does she make it ?”
And they verified one another during extreme times. Cycling across Australia- in 40 C hot, into a headwind that meant they couldn’t advance more than six miles per hour- was the most brutal time, physically and mentally.” For weeks on end , nothing changed ,” says Helen.” We both reacted very differently to secrete that stress .”
Helen cried every day; Mike tended to bottle up his emotions, but, after a minor difference, had a meltdown.” It’s probably quite a rare thing to learn about development partners ,” says Helen.” I approximate not many parties know that kind of extreme to know how the other person would greeting .”
Moving on to the US, they cycled from San Diego to Yosemite national park, where they was married.” I recall by then we’d done a year and about 12,000 miles ,” says Mike.” We were like:’ We’ll be fine; we’ll still love each other sufficient to “re married” .'” Their parents and a couple of friends flew out, then Mike and Helen carried on. It was about a month later that Mike practically died of hypothermia in the Rockies.” That was our honeymoon ,” he says with a small laugh.