Andy Grandmottet-Shaw, 51, and her husband, Yves, 49, is in conformity with 1996 after legal disputes about some loud music. They live in Porto and have one daughter
Andy firstly clapped sees on Yves in 1996, when they were living in the same block of flats in Newcastle.” Someone used to play this thunderou, frightful music and my boyfriend presumed it was him ,” says Andy.” I used to bang on the ceiling hollering:’ Shut up, you French wanker !'” Yves laughs.” Yes, she just assumed it was me. Blame the French party .”
But it turned out he wasn’t responsible for the racket. The duo finally fulfilled properly when Andy’s then-boyfriend invited Yves round for a suck.” There was definitely some friction there ,” says Yves. “Yes,” Andy concurs.” Major sexual tension !”
Before long, Yves went to Nottingham for act, while Andy stayed in Newcastle to continue her “masters degree”. By the time he returned after Christmas, Andy and her lover had split up.” He was a lovely guy, but we didn’t have anything in common .”
In a canny plan to meet her French neighbour again, she descended round to his flat to ask if he could change a lightbulb for her. Then she invited him to join her and a friend for dinner.” My poor friend went home early ,” she remembers.” We just gazed at one another all darknes .” Yves adds that there was a lot of” drunken snogging “.
“Yes,” says Andy.” But I sent you home subsequentlies .”
The couple consume the next two weeks together, before Yves announced that he was moving to Nottingham for project. They decided to keep their arrangement casual.” You told me it was fine to see other people ,” says Yves.
“Yeah,” Andy agrees.” I didn’t really aim it, though !”
One day, Andy went to meet Yves in Nottingham.” I was anxious ,” she withdraws.” I’m litter with faces and couldn’t remember exactly what he was like .” She needn’t have worried.” When we met in town? Wow! That was the best kiss ever .”
Still, at this stage, neither was looking for a serious relationship.” He was all heartbroken over another girlfriend, saying:’ I’ll never cherish again .'” But they continued to see each other after Yves moved to London a few months later.” I used to drive from work late at night to come and accompany her ,” he remembers.” One hour, I culminated up sleeping in the car. I rang the doorbell at 2am, but she didn’t wake up because she was drunk .”
Andy titters.” Yeah, I probably was. I think it amazed me that you’d sleep in the car .”
By the end of 1997, they were officially a duo and Yves moved in with Andy. It is fair to say it didn’t run smoothly at first.” He “ve lost” cat. I told him not to leave the window open .” Although she was ” ferocious”, she eventually forgave him. The pair decided to get married in 1999.” He’s so handsome and such a charmer ,” Andy says.” We bicker, but it’s from a target of humour and we have the same sensibilities at our core .” Yves says their relationship has become stronger over experience.” At the start, it was all drink, laugh and lust. I think we bid on laugh and took a chance .” He doesn’t think they bicker that much.
” What about the honeymoon campaigns ?” says Andy. “Oh yeah.” Yves chortles, remembering one incident when they had been fighting in the car.” I thought it would be funny to move the car while she was in the petrol station shop .” Andy, who didn’t realise, went in to someone else’s car and started wailing at the man in the driver’s seat.” That good Spanish bloke didn’t know what hit him !”
In 2003, the couple moved to Portugal; they have since faced numerous difficult period together, including bereavement and Yves’ battle with an aggressive cancer. He is better after care but it was a unnerving time.
” I don’t think anyone who understood us on that honeymoon would think we’d still be together 20 years later ,” says Andy.” He stirs me whole, though, as cliched as it audios. He’s funny, ruffling -”
” I’m not annoying ,” interrupts Yves.
” You definitely are. But you stir me a better person. I know I is feasible to -”
” Arsey? Short-tempered ?” They laugh again.” Andy manufactures me a better person, very ,” says Yves.” I couldn’t be without her .”
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