US state allows wedlocks in which neither party is actually there, explored in documentary Absent-minded from Our Own Wedding
For some apprehensive betrothed duets a proxy wedlock might resonate more good to be true: if there really were such a simple way to avoid the stress and fuss of a wedding ceremony, surely everyone would do it?
But marriages in which neither the bride nor bridegroom are present happen all the time, and is not merely in countries with very different custom-mades and statutes to Britain.
The award-winning British documentary manufacturer and former actor Debbie Howard recently released the first film about a US duo who operate a thriving proxy matrimony business from their urban home in Flathead county, Montana.
Her film Absent from Our Own Wedding tells the impressive storey of the retired husband and wife unit Tom and Teresa Kennedy, who conduct about 500 weds a year for a fee of $750( PS530 ), without ever filling a blushing bride or a chivalrous groom.
Montana is the only US state where double proxy weddings are law and the Kennedys belief their business, Armed Pushes Proxy Marriages, offers a helpful work to couples who cannot arrange to be together on their large-scale day.
Tom Kennedy said:” I stumbled on the said law and now we just love doing it and we were just trying to carry on. We are not doing it for the money. We are fine, because Teresa was a stockbroker and I laboured in public service for around 25 times, including a long time in the fire department .”
The obscure Montana law years back to the 1860 s, Tom showed, and was initially a method to help out male miners.” All the women were on the east coast and “its not” seen as proper to create them to tough all-male mining communities to get married ,” he said.
Teresa, 56, regularly standing in for either the bride or the groom, who can be same-sex, while a colleague steps up to play their proposed. Tom will often behaviour the ceremony.
In the past double, proxy marriage was possible in Montana for anyone who exploited from anywhere in the world, but 10 years ago the laws and regulations was changed. Now one of the two getting married must be a resident of Montana- or on active office in the armed services.
” Outside of Montana very few people have heard of this ,” said Tom, 66.” It is very overshadow and even federal officials know nothing about it. The fact is, in Montana you do not even need to be a magistrate or a adjudicate to marry beings. You precisely have to appear to be of sound mind to those who are present at the time. You could even marry yourselves .”
Howard’s documentary, made by Big Buddha Films, was shot in Montana last year and is now prove as part of the Real Floor strand on YouTube.