US state allows unions in which neither party is actually there, explored in documentary Absent-minded from Our Own Wedding
For some anxious betrothed duets a proxy union might announce more good to be true: if there really were such an easy way to avoid the stress and fuss of a wedding ceremony, surely everyone would do it?
But marriages in which neither the bride nor groom are present happen all the time, and is not merely in countries with most varied customs and principles to Britain.
The award-winning British film creator and former performer Debbie Howard recently released the first film about a US duo who extend a thriving proxy matrimony business from their urban home in Flathead county, Montana.
Her film Absent from Our Own Wedding tells the impressive fib of the retired husband and wife unit Tom and Teresa Kennedy, who impart about 500 bridals a year for a cost of $750( PS530 ), without ever fulfilling a redden bride or a gallant groom.
Montana is the only US state where doubled proxy marries are legal and the Kennedys conceive their business, Armed Troops Proxy Marriages, offers a helpful service to couples who cannot arrange to be together on their big day.
Tom Kennedy said:” I stumbled on the said law and now we just affection doing it and we want to carry on. We are not doing it for the money. We are penalty, because Teresa was a stockbroker and I drove in public service for around 25 times, including a long time in the fire department .”
The obscure Montana law times back to the 1860 s, Tom interpreted, and was initially a way to help out male miners.” All the status of women were on the east coast and it was not seen as proper to create them to tough all-male mining local communities to get married ,” he said.
Teresa, 56, regularly standing in for either the bride or the groom, who can be same-sex, while a peer steps up to play their planned. Tom will often impart the opening ceremony.
In the past double, proxy matrimony was possible in Montana for anyone who worked from anywhere in the nations of the world, but 10 decades ago the law was changed. Now one of the two getting married must be a resident of Montana- or on active duty in the armed services.
” Outside of Montana very few people have heard of this ,” said Tom, 66.” It is very fog and even federal officials know nothing about it. The reality is, in Montana you do not even need to be a magistrate or a adjudicator to marry beings. You just have to appear to be of sound mind to those who are present at the time. You could even marry yourselves .”
Howard’s documentary, made by Big Buddha Films, was film in Montana last year and is now indicate as part of the Real Storey strand on YouTube.