US state allows marriages in which neither party is actually there, explored in documentary Absent from Our Own Wedding
For some nervous betrothed duets a proxy wedlock might resonate too good to be true: if there really were such a simple way to avoid the stress and fuss of a wedding ceremony, surely everyone would do it?
But marriages in which neither the bride nor groom are present happen all the time, and is not merely in countries with very different habits and laws to Britain.
The award-winning British documentary manufacturer and former actor Debbie Howard recently released the first movie about a US duo who pass a thriving proxy wedlock business from their rural home in Flathead county, Montana.
Her film Absent from Our Own Wedding tells the impressive floor of the retired husband and wife team Tom and Teresa Kennedy, who deport about 500 bridals a year for a fee of $750( PS530 ), without ever matching a blushing bride or a gallant groom.
Montana is the only US state where doubled proxy weds are law and the Kennedys belief their business, Armed Thrusts Proxy Marriages, offers a helpful work to couples who cannot arrange to be together on their big day.
Tom Kennedy said:” I stumbled on this law and now we just charity doing it and we want to carry on. We are not doing it for the money. We are penalty, because Teresa was a stockbroker and I acted in public service for around 25 times, including a long time in the fire department .”
The obscure Montana law times back to the 1860 s, Tom interpreted, and was initially a method to help out male miners.” All the status of women were on the east coast and it was not seen as proper to deliver them to tough all-male mining local communities to get married ,” he said.
Teresa, 56, regularly standing in for either the bride or the bridegroom, who are able to same-sex, while a colleague steps up to play their planned. Tom will often deport the opening ceremony.
In the past double, proxy union was possible in Montana for anyone who referred from anywhere in the nations of the world, but 10 years ago the laws and regulations was changed. Now one of the two getting married must be a resident of Montana- or on active imperative in the armed services.
” Outside of Montana very few people have heard of this ,” said Tom, 66.” It is very obliterate and even federal officials know nothing about it. The happening is, in Montana you do not even need to be a magistrate or a magistrate to marry parties. You just have to appear to be of sound mind to those who are present at the time. You could even marry yourselves .”
Howard’s documentary, made by Big Buddha Films, was shoot in Montana last year and is now appearance as part of the Real Legend strand on YouTube.