My name is Prashanthi Musapet, and Im here today because Im addicted to being single.
I’m sorry you had to find out this acces, Dad.
Nope, your “girls ” is not dreaming of exchanging dedicates with her Prince Charming in an elaborate ritual, with all our friends and family watching.
The amusing thing is, growing up, this is all I’d ever wanted. I shared many young girls’ daydreams of one day becoming the picture-perfect housewife and soccer mom.
My life would follow the stereotypical planned: Find my soulmate in college. Get wedded right after college.
One year later, live in an adorable house in the suburbium. Somewhere down the line, give birth to the cutest little son and girl on the planet.
So the tale goes.
But as experience gone on, I maintained pushing that dream further and further away.
Maybe in the next year or two. Maybe when Im 30.
Then, it eventually dawned on me: I didnt want any of it to come true.
Thats when I recognise — wait for it — Im not marriage material.
Here arefour grounds that pretty much sum up why 😛 TAGEND
1. Im not ready to give up me yet.
When you get married, me automatically becomes we: ”We cant make it this weekend or were considering to purchase a new couch.
Yeah. No thanks.
Ionly crave my favorite depicts on the DVR.
I’mnot willing to share the leftovers from my favorite restaurant the next day.
Plus, I want to be able to make a rash, split-second decision on my own. I want to splurge on a way-too-expensive food processor Ill never implement, exclusively to regret it later.
Most people can agree wedding relies on endanger in order to be successful.
So if you’re not the type of party willing to oblige sacrifices, “youre supposed to” shouldnt be walking down the aisle any time soon.
2. I can’t commit to the long-term on anything.
Whether its a new job, target to live, hobby or relationship, Im all in for a couple of years( three max ).
After that, Im running for the door, ready for the next adventure.
Unfortunately, my joy for most things come here for a limited warranty.
I love its own experience brand-new concepts fetch, but when the brand-new wears out, I check out.
Im not sure if its because Im a Gemini and we tend to get bored easily, or if its only that Im addicted to the adrenaline of new experiences.
The same departs for my relationships with men.
“The honeymoon period” is so euphoric.
Hes so amazing. Hes all I think about. I cant wait to see him again.
Eventually, all that euphoria turns into “Hes kind of annoying.”
“God, he’s so moody. Im feeling extinguished. Get me out of here.”
3. I want to have my patty and eat it too.
Example: You go shopping, and youre interested in two pairs of jeans.
You pay for one, merely to immediately repent your decision once you leave the store.
Can you thoughts having customers remorse with the person you’ve promised to stay with until “youre dying”?
That could be a really, certainly long time.
One day, youre into the bad son with the tattoo sleeves and a motorcycle.
The next day, its all about the socially-awkward geek with large-hearted ambitions and a solid 401( k ).
There are too many alternatives to settle down.
They enunciate mixture is the spice of life, and I like thoughts certainly spicy.
4. My bucket list doesnt include a plus one.
What if I ultimately get my reverie position and have to move across the country tomorrow?
What if said daydream enterprise turns out to be a nightmare, and I decide to peacefulnes out so I can travel around the world and settlein Ireland?
Oh, wait. I can.
Decisions like these pretty much affect me and merely me.
Right now, Im merely responsible for myself, so I can leave everything at the drop of a hat without affecting anyone elses future.
Everyone I’ve talked to seems to be only interested in eventually finding a life partner.
It got me thinking, “Am I alone in the desire to pilot solo for the foreseeable future? ”
I turned to licensed psychotherapist, Denise Limongello, LMSW for answers 😛 TAGEND
Not everyone is furnished for wedding or life partnership.
Most parties, nonetheless, do seek a long-term, if not a life-long, companion.
So those who do not wish to marry could be considered the minority. The decision, however, does not directly correlate to age, but preferably to personal predilection and to gender.
Studies indicate that most anyone else who do not seek their own lives marriage or matrimony are typically males.
So perhaps I’m in the minority, but for now, I’m experiencing and embracing the single life.
My attitude, though, may change in the next 15 years, when the thought of has become a “cat-o-nine-tail” female doesn’t seem as appealing.